Things haven’t always been peaches & cream in my life!

A few years ago I was in the lowest point in my family life.

My new spouse and I had struggled through a few things, my divorce, blending our families, total house fire, new children together and I had finally hit my biggest wall: finding out I had a Heart Condition!

When I realized that my Heart Condition Symptoms were telling me something, something very important, that I was on a road that I didn’t necessarily want to be on.

I think we all have a ‘wake up moment’ in our lives….for me it was listening to the Heart condition symptoms I was having, and realizing that I could be taken away from my family at any given moment.

Suddenly, I wasn’t the same Jody Maley anymore.

Feelings of unhappiness, fear, doubt started to plague me.

I awakened to something deep within me that said “you have not completed what you are supposed to Be yet!”

I was at a point in my life where I was engulfed by Fear! Fear of dying, fear of my younger children waking up & me being a lump in my bed. (no parent wants to have that fear!!)

I was afraid of all the past goals I’ve had that I haven’t accomplished yet!

At this point I realized I had two very specific options:
1) I could delve more Into this Fear and let it Rule my Life or
2) I could Face this Fear and become Stronger in myself

Well, I chose option 2!

Even though I had Fear of my heart condition symptoms, I realized that this was a great Gift from God for me to Start over! To finally realize Who I was, and Why I was here!

There were a few very Obvious things in my life that I knew I could change that were not making me very happy:

• I was in a J.O.B. (just over broke) that I absolutely hated!
• We were living in the tiniest two-bedroom trailer in a Park
• I didn’t feel I knew what my Life Purpose was and since my divorce felt like I was “wandering and surviving” in my day to day life
• Obviously I was having Heart Condition Symptoms several times a week ( I have a spasm in my artery BTW which can feel like I’m having a full blown heart attack, very painful & leaves me Very tired after an episode)
• My spouse had been out of work for almost a year so our relationship was very strained

When I realized that these things were happening (I had actually sat down and wrote out my Fears and things I knew were upsetting me) I decided right Then that changes Had to be made!

I didn’t want to die, and this was a Very Real scenario I was dealing with!

How could I change those things above though? I knew I was in a “Survivor” and “Victim” mentality but I also knew for myself, my health, and most importantly for my Children (we have 6, 2 his 2 mine and 2 together) that Changes needed to be made!

My first order of business was to get rid of the J.O.B. that I absolutely Hated!  So I went online to search for a ‘real’ at home business for myself.

It was in this searching that many of my answers came to me from a Higher Power.

Everytime I would search something a pop-up would come up about a new book called “The Secret“.  This happened about 2 times, and I read the inserts and was definitely intrigued!

My background though as a very strict christian kept telling me, oh this is just a new-age thing, nothing for Me to take Seriously.

I was getting a little frusterated and took a break from searching and checked my email….I had a message from Oprah from her book club info and guess what the message was about? Yup, “The Secret”!

I thought “Ok God” I guess this is what You are trying to tell me!

I bought the book, and also got myself a Self Development home-course and with using both of these together some amazing things took place in a VERY short time period! (in Less than 4 MONTHS)

• My spouse got a new job offer!
• We moved onto LakeShore Property
• I realized my “True Passion“ to work with ladies in a Party Plan Biz and started my own company!
• And best of all ***I have not taken One Single Pill for my Heart Condition Symptoms***

I think what has made me the saddest is when I see other amazing women who just aren’t Happy in life!
They jump from business to business, job to job & spend thousands of dollars doing this!

Now you can discover a new way to live your life, boost your business sales & be your authentic self at the same time! This is my ‘gift’ to you!

Sincerely Jody Maley
www.DesignedforDivineDestinations.com
“It’s not just about the Destination, it’s the Journey to Get There!”

I am a strong believer of the adage that “What GOES around COMES around!”  That if we are a ‘positive’ person more ‘positve’ things keep happening in our lives (the same is true for the ‘negative’) 
    My dad comes to mind whenever I talk to people about this subject, for years his motto around our home was G.I.G.O. (Garbage In Garbage Out) and as a coach and teacher for over 38 years he really LIVED by this example. 

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We have all found ourselves sabotaging ourselves. Most of the communication we participate in any given day is internal dialogue. At some point or another we have all said to ourselves “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t deserve this“. It’s not a good dialogue to have. Certainly this sort of communication with yourself is something to be changed.

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A very long time ago, I had the opportunity to speak to a wonderful group of women for their monthly meeting. 

Unknowingly the person I helped the most over the last twenty years has been MYSELF!

Since it was to a Ladies Bible study group I had no idea what to say…..fear of speaking in public (I was pretty young nearly 20 yrs ago), maybe sounding unintelligent to a group of ladies etc…

So my pastor’s wife said “Just speak from the heart”…we all would like to get to know you a bit better.

Once everyone was seated in my living room, I think there were about 18 ladies or so, I started my jittery speech.

The butterflies started, I felt ready to throw up, but as soon as I started speaking from my heart and being truly passionate about what I was saying, all that ‘Monkey Chatter’ left my head.

I asked everyone if they had a compact in their purses with a mirror and if they could pull them out.  I had found several in my home for those who didn’t have one and pretty soon everyone was looking around expecting something spectacular to happen.

I told them to just take a few quiet moments and look deeply into that mirror…..

….after a few moments I then quietly said things like  “Who is that woman you are looking at?”

“Who is she really?”

“Is she a mom? sister? grandmother? friend?”

I asked everyone to put down their mirrors as I kept mine up so that I could see my own reflection…..looking deeply into my own reflection I told myself (out loud) how beautiful I looked (a few people giggled at that one) what a great new mom I was….

….and then I repeated to my reflection several times “I LOVE YOU!” each with more and more FEELING!

I looked at each lady in the eye after I put my mirror down and asked who was uncomfortable with me saying that (they didn’t have to actually speak out loud)…the reason is we are all brought up with:

“Now think of others before yourself!” or how about “Pride goes before a fall!”

I then quoted from the Bible  “Love your Neighbor as Yourself!”….everyone nodded not fully understanding where my vanity was taking this.

I then said, ‘If you truly cannot look in the mirror and tell Yourself you Love Yourself….how can you give that same love to a Neighbor!”

The room was very quiet and  contemplative, and, as I said at the beginning of this story this is something that I’ve lived by for nearly 20 yrs…

“Loving myself and everything about me, Jody Maley, allows my love to overspill to my neighbors, my friends, my family, children and spouse!”

Jody Maley

www.DesignedforDivineDestinations.com

Yup, that was not a typo or misspelling.

Some of you are probably thinking, why does a beautiful woman, entrepeneur and mom of six think of herself as a Rhino?

This is an analogy I heard a few yrs back and it Opened my Eyes and made me more Self-Aware, I hope it affects YOU the same way!

The human race  can best be desribed as a huge herd of Cows!  We live in a huge pasture with many many other cows, doing the same thing day in, day out!  We roam together, huddle together, and yes, even eat together.  Life is pretty much the same day after day.

Now, a Rhino, amazing animal that it is, can actually live quite peacefully amongst a herd of cows!  This strong, powerful animal can be quite tame, and live its life contently as a cow!

The thing is this, a Rhino can be awakened up one day to its true “inner self”, perhaps looking in a refreshing pool of water and “See” that its different! 

A Rhino can then see, its stronger than a cow, it has a powerful horn on its head, and best of all…..”The Grass Really does look GREENER on the other side of the Fence!”

So using muscles he never knew he had, and a horn for butting and crashing the most strongest of fences, the New and Enlightened Rhino surges through into the next pasture!

Excitement, strength, and the knowledge of the best food, untrodden fields and new things to explore is all opened up to the Enlightened Rhino!

As the Rhino looks back into the pasture full of cows, he notices something amazing!  Just like himself, he can “SEE” other Rhino’s acting like cows, with no idea that they too are an Amazing Powerful Rhino!

So, with a newfound knowledge of the best of life, the Enlightened Rhino goes back into the Cow pasture and gently nudges other Rhino’s. 

Unfortunately, some are so steeped in living the life of a cow, that no matter what the Enlightened Rhino does or says they do not want to leave the security and path that they think they are on.

Others get a bit of a sparkle in their eyes, and for a glimpse, may realize they have a Rhino, but that glimpse was not enough.

Then the blessed day comes when the Enlightened Rhino rubs against another Rhino who has been unsatisfied with his life as a Cow!

He listens intently to the Enlightened Rhino and realizes that deep within, he too, had never fit in with the path of the Cows!

So, after much searching the Enlighted Rhino found another Rhino just like himself!  Celebration was in order!

After that, the Enlightened Rhino loved living his life full of the greenest pastures, the freshest water and living with a Power and Strength within him greater than anything he had ever known!

He did, of course, go back into the pastures of the Cows and found a great purpose in his long and abundant  life by “Awakening other Rhino’s”, but even better than that, he had his biggest realization:

“Once you know in your heart that you are an Enlightened Rhino, you can NEVER step back into the life of a mundane Cow!”